Journal
– Chapter 2
Personalities:
I think that it is important for all people to have a
different kind of personality and be able to express themselves in any way they
want, not being afraid of what others think of them. What I do not like most in a person is when they change who they
really are to fit in with a crowd or to enable one particular person to like
them. I knew some people in high school
who would change who they really were in order to fit in somewhere particular;
although it only worked for a while and then I saw that they were no longer
part of that group. The ability to be
unique is the best trait a person can have in my opinion. Even if it does not allow every person to
like you, than that is ok because maybe they do not deserve your
friendship.
I
think the big five personality traits (extraversion, neuroticism, openness to
experience, agreeableness and conscientiousness) are very true and sum up most
people. I knew many friends who were
like all of these and I have to say the personality I dislike most is probably
neuroticism. This does not mean I did
not like the person but it drives me nuts when people are insecure and
vulnerable because people tend to take advantage of people who are
vulnerable. I do not think I have a
problem with insecurity so maybe it bugs me when people are.
What
absolutely bugs me about a person is when they brag about everything,
especially to an extent that it makes others feel bad about themselves for not
having as many things or opportunities.
I had a friend who just recently moved, although she used to work with
me and every time she came to work she always had a different story about what
her mom bought her this week or how much money she had. She would say anything
to make herself look better than everyone else and toward the end she started
to make me wish that I had some of those opportunities. I now realize that she was not a true
friend. If she was she would realize
that other people did not have as much as her and would be able to sense it in
other people that when she talked like that it made others feel bad. Everyone realized it but her, and toward the
end, nobody liked her.
I think it is funny how some people have huge defense
mechanisms. I admire people who do not
put themselves in situations where they can get hurt. Although, if you are always watching and being careful of what
you are doing then
can
you ever really have fun and enjoy yourself to the fullest extent? Part of life is getting hurt and if you do
not allow that to happen than you could be missing out
on
a lot of things, not that they are necessarily good things, although they could
be valuable learning experiences.
It really amazes me about how a child
grows up and its attachment to either the mother or father changes. I realized how a child is closer to a mother
than a father when it is an infant or baby.
That is because the mother cares for it, feeds and makes sure it has
everything it needs. How children fight
for either one of their parents attention now makes sense to me, although the
whole sexuality part and how children are curious at such young ages shocks
me. I always thought that the curiosity
started around teenage years, during puberty.
I think it is true that the first five
years of a child’s life is important in shaping their outcome. If a child grows up around hostility and
harsh behavior there is a good chance that they will grow up to be exactly like
that. I think every child grows up to
be like the person who raised them. My
sister and I are exactly like our mother in almost every way. We have most of the same values as her and
enjoy doing many of the same things she does.
The only way a child does not turn out like their guardian is if for
some reason they were not a good role model, and in this instance many people
promise themselves to be different than them.
Observational Learning
I
think that I am a very good observational learner. Once I see something once I could do it again in an instant. For example when I am driving in order for
me to remember directions instead of being told or seeing a map I am better if
I see it, even if it is only once. I
like to remember things by looking at a building or stores and make a mental
picture of what stands out on them. I also
remember things by putting them in a weird aspect. I think the weirdness makes me remember something more because it
is different than something you see every day.